Proverbs 25:16 (New International Version)

 16 If you find honey, eat just enough-- 
       too much of it, and you will vomit

My interpretation

“Be careful not to become too familiar with people, they may become aware of your faults and get sick of you”

I can hear the tree huggers now accusing me of propagating a philosophy of coldness and hardness... No, not at all, but to remain powerful and able to lead requires that you have peoples respect.

In the neighbourhood where I was raised there was a neighbour called Robbie, his nick name was marmite, Why? Well he was a nice enough sort of chap, but if you spent too much time with him he’d get on your wick! Just like marmite a little is nice but eat too much and you get annoyed with the taste and sensation...

Authenticity and honesty can be achieved but does not require that you bear all your skeletons or talk only about what you are interested in (note to self to not talk cycling with everyone) especially the issues you are still grappling with. Great leaders will admit to their human failings, but only after they have overcome them, or at least have a strategy to manage them

So my advice, be careful not to overwhelm your friends and clients with all your challenges. Listen and chat about their lives as well... have a great week


If my 6 year old daughter has figured it out then maybe it’s time we did as well.

I asked her about something she did by herself that I thought was difficult to do as a 6 year old and she replied “I just asked Mummy, Dad”. It hit me like a truck hitting a cyclist that this a key to success in life ....


Two things I noted

1.       She looked good asking, came across as sharp to ask engaged the respect of the person being asked and more than likely got a great answer.

2.       She learnt something, and this built her confidence and self esteem

So today I am going to ask questions rather than pretend I know everything....